When was the last time you examined your own values? When faced with scenarios you hear on the news or media how do you react and how does this affect the people around you? Are their values and reactions the same as yours? If not, does this create tension among you?
In my line of work, we’ve been examining the culture of our workplace. What makes a positive working environment and why? It boils down to one thing, relationships.
What I’m learning is that you have to start by examining yourself. What do you believe and why? How do you live this in your daily interactions? When we start to know ourselves, we can start to improve ourselves. If we’re so focused on looking out and judging others, making assumptions and criticizing, we fall into a trap of problems.
Start by examining yourself. Why do you struggle with another person? Why do you have a problem with this person’s values or behavior? What do you need to know or do so that you can build effective relationships with this person? Start with understanding yourself so that you can understand the people around you.
I believe that if we want a change in the world around us we need to be the change we want to see. Everyone starts with good intentions. I am confident that at heart, we believe we’re doing the right thing. If we start believing this, then we need to start showing it. Attitude is everything.
I want my children to grow up believing not that the world owes them something, but that they have the ability to give back. To be empathetic, kind and loving are values I want to impart to them. I can’t do this by telling them, I have to do it by showing them.
Know what you value and examine if you actually show these values in all you do. If you don’t then it’s simply a value you aspire to do, it’s not intrinsic. Consider how you use these values to build relationships with others. Keep working on yourself so that you can be a better person to those around you. Reflect in what you do and consider how this impacts on relationships.